My mother told me this morning that when I use “that word” (the F-word) in my writing, it negates everything I say before and after that word. She said that’s the only thing people hear when I use such profanity. Another friend of mine advised me that I should write more softly, and that I shouldn’t sound so pissed off.
So, let me make a few things clear: I am not writing bible passages for school-aged-children. I am writing because I want to change the entire culture of the world to empower women. I write because… I am pissed off.
Why? Because there is still sexism, racism, homophobia, hatred, rape, abuse, and incest. Because women are (still) oppressed, dis-empowered and considered second-rate. Because children are sold, sex-trafficked and have their clitoris' mutilated. And that, fucking pisses me off!! Which, brings me to a perfect statement by Andrea Gibson, “We live in a culture where people are more offended by swear words than by famine, warfare and the destruction of the planet.”
So, let me fuel your fire:
- 1 and 6 American women will be a victim of attempted or completed rape = 17.7 million women
- 15% of sexual assault victims are under the age of 12
- 7% of children grades 5 – 8 are sexually abused
- 12% of children grades 9 – 12 are sexually abused
- 93% of sexual abuse is done by someone they know
That is just one set of statistics for just sexual abuse for just American girls and women. That does not include domestic abuse, or the horrors of acid-thrown-in-the-faces of young girls in the middle east, or rape as a war tactic, or sexism, or discrimination, or continued oppression, or gender inequality, or depression, or suicide or loneliness - for the US and/or around the globe.
You see, for me, reading just one line of those statistics make makes my blood-boil into rage. So, if my words are offensive or my mouth too potty, Fire Breathing Truth is not for you. Why?
Because politeness never changed a damn thing. Because people should be shocked and offended at the state of the world - not my cuss words. Because people spend more time looking for a cocktail dress than fighting for human rights. Because people are deeply hurting. Because girls are cutting themselves. Because I want to un-fuck the world. Because, I want to provoke the world. Because if any woman, anywhere, is suffering, abused, dis-empowered, lost or lonely, then I will be Fire-Breathing F-words until it all fucking stops!
Then maybe, just maybe, when the patriarchy implodes and the flesh wounds heal, I’ll pour myself a hot cup of tea, gently gaze through a Jane Austen novel as my children frolic in the sand, and perhaps then I'll talk about lollipops and rainbows. But I doubt it. Somehow, I think my head will be still be screaming, “It’s about fucking time!”